Local breastfeeding drop-ins – Funding Crisis – we need you to help us NOW!!!!

Local breastfeeding drop-ins – Funding Crisis – we need you to help us NOW – If you would like to support our case for ongoing funding – please do NOW make contact by email with those who have influence over these decisions – details are below.

When our 2 year grant funding finishes at the end of this month we have no ongoing funding for our breastfeeding drop-ins in Andover and Basingstoke. For the last 6 months we have been working with commissioners at the CCG but were very disappointed to find out two weeks ago that they do not plan to change the way they commission maternity services to include the breastfeeding drop-ins. (The term “commissioning” means buying services – using money allocated by central government).

Our recent evaluation of the 479 women who registered last year at one of our drop-ins, shows us that women feel that this service is different and more specialised than what is generally on offer to them. If you would like a copy of the evaluation please email us (contact at end of this letter).

We are continuing to negotiate positively with those in a range of organisations who have a responsibility for supporting women to breastfeed in Hampshire. In fact this is part of the problem – as there is no single organisation responsible.

If you would like to support our case for ongoing funding – please do NOW make contact by email with those who have influence over these decisions – details are below.

We would appreciate it if you could copy Fiona in to any emails you do send. Fiona Robertson: fiona@hampshirebfcs.co.uk

If you have used our drop-ins, you might like to include your own experience of using our service and why it was different from the service you received elsewhere – the commissioners believe they are already paying for enough breastfeeding support without our drop-ins – do you agree? If not, please tell them why. The cost of commissioning our drop-ins is about the same as the cost of employing one nurse or midwife; i.e. a tiny fraction of the overall CCG budget.

We have included a range of people you may consider emailing – these are all people who hold influence over how Department of Health money is spent in Hampshire.

For your ease of copying and pasting here is the list of email addresses:

sam.hullah@nhs.net

Sally.Pastellas@hampshire.nhs.uk

amandabritton@nhs.net

janet.hoff@hants.gov.uk

public.health@hants.gov.uk

Nicky.Adamson-Young@southernhealth.nhs.uk

Caroline.Brunt@hhft.nhs.uk

+ your MP and your local councillor.

The benefits of breastfeeding and some key information about how the NHS saves money when women breastfeed follows after the email addresses.

Key organisations and people you may like to contact

North Hampshire Clinical Commissioning Group (CCG)

The CCGs are the fairly new groups that are run by GP practices to commission (ie purchase) all the services patients need.

These are the local CCGs aims:
■ being open and accountable to our patients and communities, ensuring they are at the heart of everything we do
■ understanding our population and addressing inequalities so that services are in place to meet needs
■ planning services that best meet those needs now and in the future
■ aiming to secure the right care in the right place at the right time and at the right price

Dr Sam Hullah, Chief Clinical Officer of North Hampshire Clinical Commissioning Group and chair of the Clinical Cabinet. Dr Hullah is responsible for leading on decisions about how the CCG budget is spent and on which services. Why not let him know what you think should be a priority?

sam.hullah@nhs.net

Sally Pastellas – Senior Commissioning Manager for maternity and children – North Hampshire Clinical Commissioning Group – Sally has worked with us over 6 months looking at the service we provide and put the case to the clinical cabinet to consider funding the drop-ins which was rejected. The letter confirming this said: “North Hampshire CCG is committed to improving breast feeding rates for local women and will continue to look at initiatives that will support this commitment.”

Sally.Pastellas@hampshire.nhs.uk

Dr Amanda Britton, Vice Chair of the CCG clinical cabinet and also a GP at The Hackwood surgery. Amanda is aware of the service we offer as her surgery is very close to the Brookvale drop-in.

amandabritton@nhs.net

Hampshire County Council:

Janet Hoff – Children’s Services Commissioner – Janet leads the team that commissions Action for Children (the Children’s Centres) to deliver services to families including breastfeeding. It was a grant from Children’s Services that funded the drop-ins for their first year.

janet.hoff@hants.gov.uk

Ruth Milton – Director of Public Health, Hampshire – Public health commission services and have a responsibility to promote and support breastfeeding for improved health outcomes for resident of Hampshire. It was a Health and Wellbeing grant from public health funds that funds the drop-ins for the second year (until the end of May).

public.health@hants.gov.uk

Local Councillors – “Councillors decide the budgets and policies for the vital local services provided by Hampshire County Council.” You might like to tell yours what you think HCC should be spending local money on – the list is here and ask them to contact Janet Hoff and Ruth Milton.

http://www3.hants.gov.uk/yourcountyc…/findyourcouncillor.htm

Southern Health

Southern Health currently commissions all of the health visiting service.

Nicky Adamson-Young – Divisional Director for Children and Families

Nicky has visited our drop-in at Whitchurch where we run alongside the health visitor clinic and a stay and play session run by the Children’s Centre – she commented that this three way partnership was regarded as a model of best practice for supporting families.

Nicky.Adamson-Young@southernhealth.nhs.uk

Hampshire Hospitals – Midwifery

Caroline Brunt, Associate Director of Midwifery and Women’s Health & Deputy Chief Nurse – Caroline has supported our discussions with the CCG over the last 6 months and has agreed to contribute financially if other parties with a responsibility for breastfeeding also contribute.

Caroline.Brunt@hhft.nhs.uk

Your MP – parliament is currently dissolved for the election

Likely to be Maria Miller in Basingstoke and Kit Malthouse (North West Hampshire including Overton and Whitchurch) kit@kitmalthouse.com We don’t have information about Andover at this stage

Information about our drop-ins from our evaluation completed last week that you may like to use:

In the last 12 months in Andover and Basingstoke:

1.Of the mothers registered with Andover and Basingstoke GPs who initiated breastfeeding, 17.6% registered at one of our drop-ins
2.474 women registered at a drop-in in the last 12 months and there were 1228 visits (women often return a second or third time either with a complex issue or with a different issue at a later stage) To run the drop-ins in Basingstoke and Andover for 12 months costs about the same as to employ one nurse or midwife for one year.
3.At first postnatal visit to a drop-in, 51% of babies are under 4 weeks
4.93% of mothers reported that their breastfeeding issues were fully or partially resolved as a result of attending one of the drop-ins and 87% reported that their confidence in breastfeeding improved as a result of attending.
5.At 6 weeks, 84% of the babies whose mothers received our support were exclusively breastfed, compared to 38.3% for North Hampshire CCG area

Evidence that supporting breastfeeding effectively saves the NHS money:

1.Breastfeeding initiation rates for North Hampshire are just under 80%, yet at 6-8 weeks less than half of mothers (48% Wessex Area CCGs, NHS England 2015) are giving any breastmilk to their babies.
2.86% of mothers who stop breastfeeding in the first 2 weeks report that they would have liked to breastfeed for longer (McAndrew, F. et al. 2012)
3.UNICEF UK commissioned the report “Preventing Disease and Saving Resources” (2012) and the report findings show that for just 5 illnesses, moderate increases in breastfeeding would translate in to NHS cost savings of £40 million and a reduction in hospital admissions and GP consultations.
4.The NHS Institute for Innovation and Improvement estimated an average overnight stay for a patient in an NHS hospital was £225 (2008) and the 2013 Units Health and Social Care report from the Personal Social Services Research found that an 11.7 minute trip to the GP costs the NHS £45 and £27 for a 7.1 minute telephone consultation with a GP. Babies in the UK who are not breastfed are five times as likely to be admitted to hospital in the first year of life with gastrointestinal illness (Jones 2013).

The UNICEF report concludes: “Investment in effective services to increase and sustain breastfeeding rates is likely to provide a return within a few years, possibly as little as one year.”

If you would like to get a copy of our evaluation or offer any further support please contact us:

Sarah Crowdy: sarah@hampshirebfcs.co.uk

Mindy Noble: mindy@hampshirebfcs.co.uk

Fiona Robertson: fiona@hampshirebfcs.co.uk

Pamber Physio

Pamber Physio would like to take this opportunity to thank Louise of NHM for giving me the chance to promote my Private Physio clinic based in Pamber Heath.

Louise is one of my good NCT friends :-D.

About me

My name is Laura Chaffé and I run Pamber Physio throughout the week in the evenings and at weekends. I am a registered member of the Chartered Society of Physiotherapy and the Health and Care Profession Council.

I graduated with a BSc Hons in Physiotherapy at Southampton University in 2005. The last 10 years have been spent treating patients in the NHS; I have a great passion to helping patients to improve/cure their symptoms.

Pamber Physio specialises in musculoskeletal physiotherapy treating patients who have problems with muscles, joints, tendons, ligaments, discs, nerves and bones.

My aim is to provide a thorough assessment and management programme tailored to each individuals needs.

Pamber Physio can help patients understand their condition, prevent re-occurrences and learn how to manage it.

The purpose of physiotherapy is to help people who are affected by injury, illness or disability through education and advice, movement and exercise, and manual therapy.

Physiotherapists maintain health for people of all ages, helping patients to manage pain, improve range of movement, increase strength and decrease swelling.

The profession aims to facilitate recovery and helping people to stay in work or recreational hobbies.

For NHM readers

Some of you may be suffering with SPD (symphysis pubis dysfunction), low back pain, weak pelvic floor or weak core stability pre or post natal.

At Pamber Physio I can certainly help you to relieve your symptoms, provide good advice and to strengthen weak muscles.

Conditions treated

  • Lower back pain
  • Neck pain
  • Whiplash injury
  • Sciatica
  • Sports injuries
  • Chronic pain
  • Muscle, ligaments and tendon sprains and strains
  • Rheumatoid and osteoarthritic conditions
  • Joint problems which may include stiffness, swelling and pain affecting – shoulder, elbow, wrist and hand, hip, knee, foot and ankle
  • Frozen shoulder
  • Tennis/golfers elbow
  • Achilles tendonitis
  • Post fractures
  • Rehabilitation pre and post orthopaedic surgery
  • Ante and post natal care
  • Repetitive strain injuries (RSI)
  • Bursitis

Please note this list is not exhaustive and many other aches and pains can be treated with Physiotherapy.

Treatment

Pamber Physio will provide a range of treatments, specific to your needs.  Using both traditional and modern techniques with a suitable mix of technology, your condition will receive the specialist physiotherapy care.

  • Joint mobilisation
  • Soft tissue/scar tissue massage
  • Electrotherapy e.g. ultrasound
  • Exercise prescription for increasing range of movement, stretching and strengthening, proprioception and balance exercises
  • Trigger point release
  • Muscle energy techniques
  • Gait re-education
  • Core exercises
  • Gym ball exercises
  • Postural education
  • Taping
  • Theraband exercises
  • Hot and cold therapy

Based in Pamber Heath, Tadley, Pamber Physio is ideally located to treat patients in many surrounding areas within the Basingstoke, Newbury and Reading triangle.

Offering a private appointment at your home or preferred location provides flexibility when you need it most. I work out of my treatment room in Pamber Heath evenings and weekends.

To book an appointment or discuss any aspect of physiotherapy please do not hesitate to get in touch.

Email: laura@pamberphysio.co.uk

Telephone: 07909994433

Website: www.pamberphysio.co.uk this has an enquiry form if you wish to complete and I will get back to you within 24 hours.

FAQ’s

How long should I expect the treatment to last?
Initial consultation is 45 minutes to 1 hour and a follow up session is 30 minutes.

What should I wear?
Comfortable clothing – be aware you may be asked to undress.  Women may feel more comfortable to wear a vest top for shoulder and neck assessments.  Shorts can be worn for assessment and treatment for knee and ankle joints.

How much will it cost?
Initial assessment is £45 and follow up sessions are £30.  Home visits for immobile patients incur an additional charge, please enquire for further information.

How would I get referred to Pamber Physio?
Patients may self-refer to Pamber Physio. GP and consultant referrals are also welcome.

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“Breastfeeding Welcome” places in North Hampshire – Feb 2015

I’ve noticed a lot of “breastfeeding friendly” signs in the area recently.

It’s so awesome to see these signs out and about.

I’ve been meaning to try to find more details about this for ages but I only stumbled on the website below because of something that someone else mentioned on another post.

Thank you very much to Fran and Sarah for inspiring this post after our discussion on the Cafe Project post I recently published and thank you for providing the link to the website below. 

“Breastfeeding Welcome” places in North Hampshire

If you are looking for details about breastfeeding in public in Basingstoke and Deane or are a business that would like to participate, check out the following website:

http://www.basingstoke.gov.uk/breastfeeding

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22 Strategies for Returning to work

(Nearly all of these strategies can be applied to those who aren’t returning to work ;-))

1. De-clutter

Get rid of the clutter before your maternity leave ends. Box up all the baby clothes that you want to keep and put them in the loft and then sort the others out into “recycle”, “give away” and “sell”. (Did you know you can recycle clothes even when they are covered in stains?)

Do not buy lots and lots of toys for your children, they will not appreciate them. Especially as they will be spending some time in nursery or at a childminders or somewhere else that will have toys. The toys that you have, make sure you can tidy them up easily and quickly.

Find a place for everything and “train” the rest of the family to put things back where they belong. In our house, Miss NHM is way, way, way better than Mr NHM at doing this, possibly because it’s hard to teach an old dog new tricks :-D. (Hi Darling! :-D)

Make sure there is a place near the front door for your car keys, mobile and wallet. Not too close to the front door and high enough that small children can’t get to them. I have a friend (Hi Jo! :-D) whose toddler was notorious for hiding car keys and she could never find them and was often late to things as a result.

Getting rid of the clutter and giving everything a home reduces the time you spend putting things away and hunting things down. Time you won’t have when you are back at work.

2. Get a cleaner

Our cleaner is awesome. She costs £40 a month and  comes to clean for 1.5 hours every two weeks. Yes, it’s £40 but for the sake of your sanity and spare time, it will be the best £40 you will ever spend. Tracy, our cleaner, has literally saved my marriage on a number of occasions! Lol.

Yes, I know that some of you can’t bear the thought of having someone clean your house (Hi Laura! :-D) but if you can get over it, you will be doing yourself a MASSIVE favour.

3. Don’t iron anything

Yup, I’m lazy and hate ironing, so I don’t do it. If anything in our house needs ironing I get Mr NHM to do it. Or I just don’t buy anything that needs ironing.

If you are desperate, use the hot shower Tip. This saved me on a number of work trips abroad! 😉

4. Meal plan

There is nothing worse than falling through the door after work and thinking “S**t, we’ve got nothing for dinner!?!?!?!”.

This post HERE that I wrote in 2012 is still the system that we follow in our house for meal planning.

5. Have a slow cooker, preferably two

We have two slow cookers. One that is massive (it’s big enough to fit a whole chicken in) and one that is small and makes enough for the thee of us with no leftovers. I’m so in love with my slow cooker that I even take it on holiday with us!!

Roast chicken in the slow cooker is a dream and the leftover chicken can be used the following few days in, chicken salad, paella, etc..

Last year I sent out lots of slow cooker recipes that I have tried and tested. If you would also like a copy of these recipes please email me at NorthHantsMum@gmail.com and I will forward them on again.

6. Beg, borrow or steal* a tumble dryer

This one speaks for itself.

You especially need access to a tumble dryer if you are returning to work before your child has finished weaning.

7. Beg, borrow or steal* a large freezer

I have a “slummy mummy” confession to make… we often “freezer dive” for meals when we’ve both been in the office.

I recommend checking out this link HERE about potential emergency meals. Or make your own if you have time ;-).

8. Beg, Borrow or steal* a dishwasher

And teach your husband, partner, children, how to load it and unload it 😉

9. Batch cook

Check out my previous post about A day of freezer cooking.

I often try to make extra of a meal and feezer into meal sized portions, just to take the pressure off another day.

10. Use technology to its best advantage

Make sure you sync all your email accounts to your mobile. This is mandatory, especially if your nursery or school uses email. It’s also mandatory for keeping on top of things.

Get yourself a Goggle calendar set up and make sure each person in the family has a google calendar and you can access and edit it. This is fundamental for when you are in the office and need to update diaries.

Synchronise your diary with any “adults” in your family at least once a week. Mr NHM and I review the following month every Sunday evening. Without fail. The times we haven’t done this someone there has nearly always been a schedule crisis that week.

11. Subscribe to your doctors, dentists, nursery and vets text message alerts

There will come a time when you get distracted by work and forget to add something to your calendar in your mobile. A text message from the doctors reminding you about your child’s immunisation shot appointments can be a god send! ( I speak from experience here, <blush>).

12. Charge your technology every other evening

This is ironic because I never do this, Mr NHM has to do it for me! lol. However, in my work rucksack I have chargers for each mobile (I carry three with me) and I also splashed out and bought mobile chargers for my car.

13. Get a car with a hands free phone built in (but only if you can afford it!!)

This has revolutionised my life. I actually have conversations with my friends these days, albeit nearly always on the way to or from work.

14. Find a reliable Babysitter

We asked around at Miss NHM’s nursery and her key worker has been our babysitter for the past two years. She’s pretty much part of our family now! lol.

If you are struggling with finding a babysitter, please check out my previous post on NHM HERE.

15. Have a regular Date Night

I know that going on a regular Date Night when your children are small is really tough. It’s so worthwhile though. We can really tell in our household, when Mr NHM and I haven’t been on Date Night for a while 😉

If you are looking for some suggestions of what to do, please check out these previous posts HERE, HERE and HERE. Or, just arrange for a babysitter and go out for a walk. It’s a great way to chat in a neutral environment whilst getting some light exercise at the same time.

16. Find a mobile hairdresser

You will not have time to make a hair appointment because they are nearly always in working hours. Unless you want to get up early on Saturday morning, but who wants to do that after a week at work! So find someone who can come to you out of normal working hours. It will save your sanity, and hair many, many times.

Check out these pages on NHM for a list of mobile hairdressers and mobile beauticians

17. Do NOT schedule lots of classes on the weekend to make up for your guilt about putting junior into nursery in the week

This one speaks for itself ;-). Weekends should be family time.

18. Online Food Shopping

Learn how to order your shopping online BEFORE you go back to work and try to find an online service that has an App on your phone. I actually cheat and use a competitor app because it’s really good, and then transfer it across to the supermarket I use when I make an order ;-).

We also have a regular vegetable delivery each week and fresh fish delivered to our door every two months. It’s one less thing for me to think about.

19. Before your maternity leave starts, try to wean yourself of any TV soaps you are addicted too

You won’t have time to watch them when you return to work. Yes, seriously.

20. Only have one child

Ok, so this one is a little bit flippant, but I’m well aware that having more than one child is at least double the work and then some.

I have no idea how people with three or more children manage it. Mucho respect!

21. Find something for YOU!

When I returned to work I became a mother, wife and worker and it felt like I was nothing but those three roles. However, you are still you, with hopes and dreams. You still need time to be you, so do not feel guilty about taking time out for yourself. I know this is easier said than done. I’ve been there.

But you will be a better Mum, wife and worker if you do make time for yourself. Have a look at this post HERE I wrote a few years ago, for some ideas for time for yourself.

22. You are doing an amazing job!

Every so often, when at work or at home, congratulate yourself on being a superior multi-tasker.

Being a parent is very hard at times and the learning curve can be very steep, but it’s an amazing life skill :-D.

*Obviously I don’t really mean you should steal these items 😉

Returning to Work: My experience

I haven’t written about returning to work on NHM yet because it was a very painful experience for me. I think it was probably the hardest decision I’ve ever had to make. However, three years on, I think I’ve come to terms with it all.

One of the ladies mentioned in the recent NHM Feedback Survey that: ” Would love more tips on balancing going back to work with having young babies, feeding everyone & running a house whilst being the breadwinner & having a lot if work pressure & a blackberry to deal with…!!!”

All I can say is, I feel your pain.

I returned to work when Miss NHM was 5.5 months old. It nearly broke me. I’d planned to return to work when she was 7 months old. However I had to return to work much earlier, partly because we needed the money (I’m the main earner in our family) and also because at the time, if you didn’t return after 6 months, your company didn’t have to give you back the job you left before you went on maternity leave. I spent 15 years getting to a fairly senior position and I didn’t trust that the place that I worked would give me back my previous role.

I also ended up going back earlier than originally planned because I had to start my maternity leave early due to my SPD. I was also drafted for Jury Service when Miss NHM was 8 months old. I had already deferred it once as they wanted me to attend Jury Service when I was 8 months pregnant. Given it was January (snowy season) and I couldn’t get off the sofa without crutches at the time and couldn’t drive, I managed to defer.

However, this was a bit of a logistical nightmare. I was apparently the first person to express as a Juror in over 7 years! lol. It was pretty cool though, as I got out of a huge murder case because I needed to express at lunchtime. Oh and a Jury had to be thrown out of a room because they didn’t have anywhere else that was private enough for me to express! lol. I digress.

The week before I returned to work, I bargained with my husband and cried many bucket loads of tears as I did NOT want to go back to work. Not when my baby was so tiny. I didn’t want her to be looked after by a stranger, three days a week (I was very lucky to return to work 3 days a week for the first three months). I was still breastfeeding and continued to do so for the following three months at work. The first time she came home smelling of someone else was horrific.

The first day back to work wasn’t too bad. The second day was absolutely horrendous. At lunchtime I sat in a cupboard on the floor (because the chair they had arranged for me was actually a rotating stool) using a double breast pump in the only top that I could fit into that was still smart enough for work, sobbing my heart out. Yup, it was horrendous.

Then there was the whole Breastmilk tampering scenario and work accusing me of having post natal depression because I went ballistic when I realised someone had tampered with my breastmilk. Luckily my health visitor at the time totally had my back and told me to tell Occupational Health at work that they didn’t know what they were talking about. Not sure that helped though! lol.

It did get easier though. I stopped crying on the drive to work. I’m pretty sure that having to get up very early to feed Miss NHM and then having Miss NHM cluster feed in the evening didn’t help. Oh and the lack of sleep because she was teething. We got through it though.

I think that’s possibly why I’m a complete nazi at home when it comes to organisation. You have to be. I juggle many, many things. I spent the first 8 months after maternity leave working in the office, doing a job that was absolutely rubbish and not what I had originally signed up for. I spent the whole time wishing I was at home with my baby. I am very, very grateful that it wasn’t full time.

I started using a lot of technology to organise my time. Evernote, Mealboard, Trello, Remember the Milk and the list goes on. I vividly remember the first six months at work my “home” to do list had over 70 “must do” items on every day. It never seemed to end.

My slow cooker came into it’s own as I’ve talked about many times on NHM. I was regimented in everything we did. Once I started to rely on technology, RTM and Evernote came in so handy because I stopped having to try to remember it all. I think that’s half the battle.

I think my one piece of advice for a Mum who is trying to “do it all” is, make sure you take some time out for yourself. Even if it’s just a minute, to take a very deep breath. No one told me that and I went on and on and on and nearly had a breakdown.

Thankfully I had the motivation to find a better job and I managed to secure a new job, which I’m still doing now and which I absolutely love. It helps that I work from home most of the time too, so I don’t have wasted time in a commute.

Working with children is bloody hard. But then, if I spent all day at home with Miss NHM, I would have lost my identity and probably completely lost the plot in a different way. So not working with children is also bloody hard too! lol.

Now I have some perspective and can look back, I’m glad I returned to work when I did. Miss NHM loves nursery and she has never had a problem with clingyness at nursery as it’s always been part of her routine. It was hard though. The hardest thing I’ve ever done, as I said, other than breastfeeding.

Whatever you end up doing it’s going to be wrong for some reasons and right for others. Trying to get over the guilt is half the battle. Trying to get organised is the other half ;-).

Look out for tomorrow’s post which is a list of my suggested strategies for making your return to work that bit easier.

If you are returning to work soon or have returned to work after Maternity Leave, what advice would YOU offer others?

Basingstoke Homebirth Group

Denise sent me a message via NHM Friend asking me to let you know about the Basingstoke Homebirth Group: 

I co-ordinate meetings for the Basingstoke Homebirth Group and we meet monthly at a member’s home.

Meetings are a very informal chance to discuss any aspect of homebirth over a cup of tea and a biscuit. We generally have a mixture of parents that have had a homebirth and midvives/doulas attending.

Our aim is to share information and support those interested in planning a homebirth.

Details of meetings are posted on our Facebook page “Basingstoke Homebirth” and email address is homebirth@basingstokenct.org.uk for any enquiries.

SPD (PGP): My experience

I was diagnosed with SPD when I was 5 months pregnant. I had actually developed SPD much earlier, but hadn’t realised. It was only when I attended my first ante-natal class and mentioned that I couldn’t lift my feet more than an inch off the ground, that the Ante-natal teacher suggested that I had SPD and would need to see a Doctor. Within a month I was on crutches.

SPD, also known as PGD, happens when the weight of the baby becomes too much for your hips. Some say the pain is also caused by the loosening of the ligaments, in preparation for giving birth. All I know is that it hurt and it was progressive. Apparently SPD is more common these days because babies are heavier due to Mum’s having better diets. My little one wasn’t that heavy when she was born, she was just under 8lbs.

The last four months of pregnancy were a blur of pain for me.

I went to physio at the hospital for a few weeks, but when I was 7 months pregnant they said there was nothing more they could do for me. I spent the last two months of my pregnancy signed off work (oh and they made me pay back a month’s wages). I could barely manage to get off the sofa.

I would get up in the morning, try to shower (which was unbearably painful as I had to try to crawl into the shower) and would spend the rest of the day recovering, waiting for my husband to come home from work to help me back up the stairs. I even tried not to drink too much as we don’t have a toilet downstairs, so I would literally crawl up the stairs to go to the toilet. It was a 20 minute process to get up and down the stairs.

I cannot describe how painful the grinding of my hips became. As my little one became heavier, as she came to full term, the more pain I was in. It was impossible to walk, let alone drive. Two years later I still have flashes of pain and still remember what that intense pain was like. I still can’t push a trolley, so if you see that Mum struggling in Sainsburys with a toddler who keeps wanting to run off, it’s probably me! 😉

The reason I am sharing this is because, if you are like me,  you may not have realised that anything was wrong. I found a great physiotherapist, Ian Harrison, who managed to keep me mobile enough so that I could get up and down the stairs in the last few months (even if it did take 20 minutes each time!). If you are pregnant and can’t lift your foot more than an inch off the ground, you need to get this checked out as there is support for you.

I also found a fantastic website: The Pelvic Partnership

However, there is some light at the end of the tunnel if you are suffering. Two days after the birth of my little one, I no longer needed crutches. Last weekend, I actually sprinted (little one likes to run off!) for the first time in 20 years. It is likely that you will get your mobility back, and possibly very quickly, but it depends on many factors.

If you suffer, or have suffered, from SPD, you have my sympathies! I urge you to get some kind of support if you are suffering with this pain.

The Importance of Skin to Skin

This weeks theme is “Babies”.

I only picked up on how important skin to skin is when my little one turned a month old. We didn’t have a very easy time with breastfeeding, for several reasons, but it was only when I went to see Lorraine, one of the breastfeeding counselors at North Hampshire Hospital, that it became apparent to me how important skin to skin is. I am eternally grateful to Lorraine for her pearls of wisdom.

I made sure that in the morning I spent as much time as possible skin to skin with my little one. This was fairly easy to do as it was summer time (this was last year, so nowhere near as much rain!) but I can imagine that in winter time it can be quite difficult to do this. My husband also found skin to skin very rewarding and whilst we spent our first few days as a family in hospital, he spent a lot of time with our little one on his chest. The nurses at the hospital were all cool with it as I’m sure they’ve seen it all before!

Even if you aren’t breastfeeding, skin to skin is still very important. Once my little one switched to bottles I had to make a conscious effort to make sure that skin to skin still happened.

My little one is now 17 months old and if I am not dashing to work in the morning I always make sure that the first feed of the day is skin to skin. My little one has always had her milk first thing in the morning so it’s worked out pretty well to be able to do this. I’ve noticed that my little one always needs to touch my skin when I’m holding her now. She puts her hand on the edge of my top or around the back of my neck. It makes my heart sing when she does this and reminds me of when she was really tiny. I’m sure that the skin to skin approach has helped us to bond as I really miss it if we haven’t been able to make time for it.

Whether you agree with skin to skin or not, and based on my experience,  I would really recommend trying to do this as much as possible, especially in the first few months. I can imagine this is really difficult to do with your baby if you have more than one child. Does anyone have any suggestions about to manage this complexity?

If you would like more information about the importance of skin to skin, please check out some of the links below:

http://www.naturalchild.org/guest/jack_newman2.html

http://www.nbci.ca/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=82:the-importance-of-skin-to-skin-contact-&catid=5:information&Itemid=17

http://www.nhs.uk/Planners/breastfeeding/Pages/skin-to-skin-contact.aspx

Slings and Sling Meets in Basingstoke

You may have seen that I recently put out a plea to see if anyone had any advice or details about slings. I wish I had been able to find more about slings before my little one was born because once she was here there was no time to get things sorted. I really wanted to get one but had no idea where to start. I ended up buying a really expensive sling from Mama’s and Papa’s which we’ve used twice. Not the wisest of decisions.
 
After seeing my plea, Martina sent me a document that she wrote with Heather that she has very kindly given me permission to publish here. There is also a PDF document enclosed in this post which Martina sent which details the T.I.C.K.S. rule for safe baby wearing. I am going to post this on Thursday. If you are looking to buy a sling I urge you to read this document first.
 
Martina also highlighted information about your local sling meet which you can find from the following two websites:
 
 
Thank you very much to Martina and Heather for the details.
 
Please add a comment if you think the details will be useful as I’d like to pass that feedback onto Martina and Heather.
 
SLING GUIDE: Choosing a Sling for your Baby
 
by Heather Chinn and Martina Kraner
 
A sling should be on every new parent’s wish list. It is the closest thing to an  extra pair of hands you are likely to come across. They are infallible for  soothing a grizzly or colicky infant, keep the baby happy while letting you get  on with essential chores, and are invaluable while out and about, whether  travelling on public transport, negotiating steps, escalators and busy shops, or  on country walks.
 
So many slings are available today we are spoilt for choice, but the selection  is so wide it can be bewildering. When choosing a sling it is best to consider  when and how you plan to use it, if anyone else will be using it, and whether  you have the patience to master one of the trickier types. Or you could buy more  than one for different purposes.
 
Soft carriers which have been tried, tested and have had the seal of approval  from experienced sling users are usually sold by online vendors or at baby  shows, including NCT shop that has some new exciting ranges coming up in the near future.
 
But opportunities to try different types before you buy are available at local  sling meets held throughout the UK. They are organised by volunteers to help  others make the right choice of sling and they are also a good chance to meet  other new parents for coffee and a chat as well as sling tips. For information  about your local sling meet visit . The Basingstoke slingmeet at Buttercups children’s centre is no longer operational, but we will have slings regularly at the NCT Coffee and Chat on Friday’s if there is sufficient interest.
 
A wealth of helpful and friendly advice about slings is available at the UK  parenting forum www.naturalmamas.co.uk . Clear, concise, independent information  about different types of sling, the best places to find them and how to use them  is set out at www.slingguide.co.uk , a website set up by experienced and  impartial sling users to help parents choose and use the sling which is right  for them. As with all baby equipment the safety of your child is the top priority in  making your choice,  so do ensure you choose from recommended brands, follow the  instructions for use, and check for wear and tear with secondhand slings.
 
But be warned, they can be just as addictive as handbags and shoes, and you  might find yourself building up a collection! With that in mind, read on for a  brief guide to the most  popular types of sling.
 
Pouch Slings.
 
A pouch sling is a simple tube of fabric with one half folded inside the other  to form a pocket which is worn across the body like a sash. It allows a baby to  be carried in a variety of positions, for example upright facing in, or sitting on the parent’s hip. It can be used  from birth to toddlerhood by altering the carry position, and allows an older  baby to have arms and legs outside the sling. Pouches are made in a variety of materials from cuddly fleece to cool linen and  are quite cheap in comparison to other types of sling. They are also quick to  master, easy to put on in a hurry, and pack up small to carry in a change bag.  Unfolded, they can be used as car seat or buggy blankets, especially the fleece  types. They do, however, place all the weight on one shoulder, which can get  tiring for long periods with an older baby, and they have to be made to fit the  wearer so it is unlikely a partner could use it as well.
 
Ring Slings.
 
A ring sling is a long length of fabric with two rings sewn in at one end. The  other end of the material is threaded through the rings like a belt to form a  pocket for the baby with a tail of fabric hanging down. Ring slings are worn  over the shoulder like pouch slings and have the same variety of carries, but  the rings allow for adjustability in different positions and for different  wearers.
 
They come in a range of fabrics, can be padded or unpadded, and some are frankly  stunning for special occasions. However, learning to adjust the rings for a  comfortable fit takes a bit of practice – the rings are meant to sit in what the  Americans call the corsage position, not cutting into your neck. The types of shoulder vary (for example gathered, pleated, etc.) and what suits one person may not suit another. And, like the  pouch slings, they place all the weight on one shoulder.
 
Mei Tais.
 
These are a traditional type of Asian baby carrier. They consist of a shaped  piece of fabric to fit around the baby’s body with long straps at the base and  the top. The lower pair of straps tie around the wearer’s waist, and the top pair goes over the shoulders.
 
Mei tais can be used on the wearer’s front, back or hip, and, as the weight is spread  across both shoulders, they are very comfortable for long periods and with  heavier babies. They can be used by different sized adults without any  adjustments, and are suitable for babies with good head control until well into  toddlerhood.
 
Most mei tais come in a sumptuous range of fabric designs but plainer ones are  available for fathers! They are very easy to use, although back carrying single  handed takes a bit more practice. The only disadvantage is the length of the  straps which can trail on the ground while putting one on outside.
 
Soft Structured Carriers.
 
These are superficially similar to the mass-produced baby carriers available in  many high street mother and baby stores, having a padded body and fastening with  straps and buckles but, unlike the mass-produced carriers, are designed to take  the weight of heavy babies and toddlers. They can be used on the wearer’s front  or back, and, as the weight is distributed across both shoulders, they are very  comfortable for long periods.
 
They are quick and easy to put on, but if the carrier is to be shared with a  different sized adult you will have to learn to adjust the fitting of the  buckles. They are suitable for babies from about three-months-old until well  into toddlerhood. Some makes come in a beautiful range of fabrics, while others  are more utilitarian in style.
 
Wraps. W
 
raps are very long lengths of material which are wrapped around the wearer and  baby, and tied. They are very versatile, allowing a complete range of carries on  one or both of the wearer’s shoulders, can be used by different sized adults and  are very comfortable for long periods.
 
They come in either stretchy or woven material. Stretchy wraps are easier to use  but do not give as much support for an older baby, so they become less  comfortable as the baby grows.
 
Woven wraps can be used from birth into toddlerhood but are more difficult to  master. All wraps require some practice before using them but most makers  include very detailed instructions and/or DVDs. They are not, however, the  quickest to put on and the lengths of fabric do trail on the ground while you  are wrapping.
 
The range of slings and soft carriers now available in the UK is very large so  only the most common types have been described in detail. Framed back pack carriers are not covered because, while many may be excellent  for hiking the Pennines carrying a toddler and outdoor activity gear, most  people find soft slings are more suitable for their everyday needs, and are far  less cumbersome, much lighter to wear and give babies the reassurance of contact  with a carer’s body.
 
The mass-produced carriers available in high street stores vary greatly in  quality and in comfort for the wearer. While for many experienced sling users  they were their first introduction to the convenience of hands-free baby care,  few would buy one for a second child as they tend to be comfortable only when  used with very young babies, making them a very expensive purchase for the time  they are used.
 
Have fun choosing!

Amber Teething necklace’s

I was incredibly sceptical about the Amber teething necklaces. Someone at my Husband’s work recommended them to him and gave him the link so he ordered one. I thought it was a total waste of money and probably wouldn’t work. However, my husband isn’t the kind of guy to buy into “New Age B****ks” (his words, not mine) but the fact that he’d gone to such effort made me think I ought to at least try the necklace out on our little one.

Much to his delight, I’ve had to eat my words. I cannot praise this small necklace enough. You can totally tell when my little one isn’t wearing her necklace. Without it she’s grimbly, she dribbles lots more and she constantly has her fingers in her mouth pressing against her gums. With it, she’s a delightful, smiley, happy child. In fact, several people have commented that she’s one of the happiest babies they have met and I often wonder if it isn’t down to this little necklace.

She also looks very cute when she’s wearing it and is just in her nappy. Like a little Oompaloompa or Pygmy Tribal Warrior! Annnyway, I couldn’t recommend the necklaces enough. Just don’t lose it at swimming like I did so we had to buy another one!

Amber Teething Necklaces

One point I hadn’t picked up on but have just seen whilst reading the blurb is to: Avoid getting the necklaces wet and occasionally allow the amber to recharge by exposing to natural sunlight.

This is NOT a sponsored post and I’m receiving no money or any other perks for recommending Amber necklaces.