Disability Charity Garden Opening at Colemore House, Alton, Hampshire Saturday 17th June 2-6pm

Unique, the rare chromosome disorder charity is holding an Open Garden and meet and greet with staff and trustees at renowned National Garden Scheme garden in Colemore, Alton, East Hampshire this coming on Saturday 17th June.
The Open Garden will be marking the worldwide Chromosome Disorder Awareness Week as well as being a chance to see a beautifully designed garden with lots of interesting planting, garden rooms, borders and water features in an idyllic part of Hampshire countryside.  Children are of course welcome.
Unique is a charity that does wonderful work advising and helping families who have a child with a rare chromosome disorder. Unique helps families with information and support with the many medical and developmental issues that can be caused by rare chromosome disorders.
Unique CEO and genetics expert Dr Beverly Searle and garden owners Noni and Simon de Zoete will be on hand on Saturday 17 June 2-6pm with information on their garden, the work of Unique and perhaps most importantly a great selection of cakes and tea as well as plants to buy.
Tickets are £5 for adults and can be bought on the day or in advance at https://www.eventbrite.com/e/colemore-house-open-garden-for-unique-tickets-34118393032.
More details and photos of the garden attached.
Please do share this with any friends who might be interested – whether families of children with special needs and disabilities or keen open garden visitors.
We look forward to seeing you!
Sophie
Sophie Sainty
Unique Trustee
Mob 07801233207
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Things to do w/c 3rd April 2017

I’m VERY excited that the “Subscribe” option and the “Business Directory” are now available again on NorthHantsMum.co.uk.

Those of you who subscribed to the emails should hopefully get this post as an email in your inbox, after a 5 month gap. If you could let me know, that would be great! Thank you.

I won’t lie, it’s been pigging stressful but it appears to all be sorted now and I’ve learnt a LOT about wordpress and my stress levels in the past 5 months! lol.

Looks like spring is finally here and not long till Easter. Yay!!!!! Hope you have an AWESOME week!!!!

Things to do w/c 3rd April 2017

Monday 3rd April: Caterpillar Music (AM)
9.45am – 10.25am – from birth to 3 years
10.35am – 11.15am – from 18 months to 4 years
11.25am – 12.05pm – from birth to 3 years
Wellington Country Park, Odiham Road, Riseley, Reading, RG7 1SP
As featured in NHM

Tuesday 4th April: Penguin Club (AM)
11.30am – 12.30pm – Parent and Toddler drop in
Planet Ice Arena, Leisure Park, Basingstoke, RG22 6PG

Wednesday 5th April: LinguatasticLanguages for Children. Check the website for more details.

Thursday 6th April: Emboite Ballet (PM)
4.15pm – 4.45pm – from 3 years to 5 years
Sherfield Park Community Centre, Sunwood Drive, Sherfield on Loddon, RG27 0FP

Friday 7th April: Mini Jump (AM & PM)
10am – 11am – Walking to 5 years
11am – 12pm – Walking to 5 years
2pm – 3pm – Walking to 5 years
Jump Factory, Unit B, Rutherford Road, Daneshill Industrial Estate, Basingstoke, RG24 8PD

Saturday 8th April: Super Fun Saturday at Tadley Library

Sunday 9th April: Rugby Tots (AM)
9am – 9.30am – from 2 years to 3.5 years
9,40am – 10.25am – from 3.5 years to 5 years
10.30am – 11am – from 2 years to 3.5 years
Queen Mary’s Sports Centre, Cliddesden Road, Basingstoke, RG21 3HF

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Thula Mama singing group for mums!

Rebecca sent me a lovely email asking me to let you know about Thula Mama

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Thula Mama singing group for mums!

I’m a mother of a 2 year old – Elliott – and I live in Bramley. I’ve just started a new career path as a singer and singing teacher and as part of my new ventures, I’ve become a franchisee of Thula Mama (pronounced ‘Tula Mama’).

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Thula Mama is an alternative and inspirational singing group for mums of bumps and pre-crawling babies. Unlike most musical singing groups for babies and toddlers, this one is all about the mothers and giving them an hour and a half to relax, unwind, meet up with friends and enjoy singing beautiful but simple harmonies together.

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We learn lovely songs and lullabies from around the world – not a ‘wheels on the bus’ in sight! The babies really benefit from hearing the sound of their mother’s voice singing to them and the soothing harmonies created by the group.  There is absolutely no experience necessary and it’s an extremely inclusive and gentle process, with all songs and learning taken at an appropriate pace for the group.

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I’m starting my sessions on Wednesday 2nd November from my home in Bramley and will be running them every Wednesday at 10am. The introductory price will be £5 with everyone’s first session being free.

You can find out more on my facebook page www.facebook.com/ThulaMamaBasingstoke and also on the website www.thulamama.co.uk

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I need to be the best Mum that I can be for my daughter.

Which is why I am cancelling the NorthHantsMum 2016 Christmas Expo.

Some of you may remember that in August last year we moved from the old WordPress site to the new NorthHantsMum.co.uk site. In May of this year my technical “person” advised me that she couldn’t support the site anymore. She left me floundering. I literally had NO IDEA what to do with the back end of the site.

I’ve spent the past six months trying to sort things out in the back end and it’s been very, very, VERY frustrating and stressful. In April of this year I was advised to switch off the old wordpress site which means that I can’t reactive it, so I can’t even go back to that.

My aim is to post every week day. You may have noticed that I have randomly stop posting every so often, in the past six months. It’s not because I don’t want too, it’s because I literally can’t post anything because something has happened in the back end site. Again.

I’ve “wasted” a lot of energy in the past six months trying to sort stuff out behind the scenes. My stress levels have rocketed. It’s affecting the most important relationships to me and it’s knocked my confidence in NHM. I want to have the energy and head space to write some more personal posts which I just don’t have the time for anymore.

When Mr NHM came up with the idea that I raise money for a bench, a safe place for Mum’s to meet in a local popular park, I was totally up for running another Expo to raise funds to this. I put out a plea asking for help and am so very grateful to all those who have volunteered.

Even with all of this help, I just can’t run the Expo this year. My sanity will not remain if I go ahead. Last year, when the electric was off until 2 minutes into the start of the Expo (1.5 hours setting up in the dark!?!?!?!), I was practically catatonic. It takes me three weeks to get over an Expo, the planning, the stress and all of the table moving and cleaning up after, when things go “well”, let alone when they don’t. My hips have never been quite the same after having to move 48 tables for the 2015 Spring Expo.

In March I did the 2016 Spring Expo whilst suffering from flu. 100 people booked tickets and 15 people turned up. I worked so hard to make it a successful event, whilst feeling dreadful, and it was so frustrating when it didn’t come together.

So, for the sake of my sanity and my family I am cancelling the Expo this Christmas.

I’m very sorry to all of those people I am disappointing but hopefully you understand why I have to do this.

Hopefully I will get the technical issues sorted out in the background and then I will be able to focus my attention on the bit I love, providing quality content and support to local Mum’s.

Thank you for your understanding. x

(I am posting this from my phone, which I’ve never done before, so not even sure if this post will work!)

Updated on Monday 17th October: Fundraising for the NorthHantsMum Bench:  gofundme.com/northhantsmums-bench-2uncp5w.

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Things to do w/c 10th October 2016

Only two weeks till the October half term. Yay!!! 😀

Things to do w/c 10th October 2016

Monday 10th October: Splatter Monkeys (AM)
10.45am – 11.30am – Birth to 5 years
Unit 12, Viables Craft Centre, Basingstoke, RG22 4BJ
As featured on NHM

Tuesday 11th October: Messy Monsters – Basingstoke (AM)
10.30am – 11.15am – Crawling to 5 years
Popley Fields Community Centre, Carpenters Down, Basingstoke, RG24 9AE

Wednesday 12th October: Gym Tots (AM)
10am – 10.50am – Under 3’s
11.10am – 12pm – Under 6’s
Basingstoke Sports Centre, Festival Place, Basingstoke, RG21 7LE

Thursday 13th October: Pre-school Ballet (PM)
4.45pm – 5.15pm – from 4 years to 6 years
Sherfield Park Community Centre, Sunwood Drive, Sherfield on Loddon, RG27 0FP

Friday 14th October: Bouncing Beans, 10am-12noon, Town Centre Community Church, Sarum Hill Centre, Sarum Hill, RG21 8SR

Saturday 15th October: Tickled Pink Day Event, Basingstoke Irish Centre, 1pm to 4pm.

Sunday 16th October: Heath End Market – October, 11am to 1pm.

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New Basingstoke hula hoop class

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It is a great class for mum’s and really does have so many benefits.

We will hope to launch some family and children’s sessions soon if this class is popular.

www.globefit.co.uk

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A NHM Reader’s Experience: Tongue Tie

This is a heartbreaking read. I can relate to so much of what is in this post because Miss NHM also had a posterior Tongue Tie and it wasn’t identified until she was 9 weeks old.

Reading today’s post has bought bank a lot of painful memories for me of that very difficult time but hopefully this Mum’s experience may help other Mum’s who are going through, or have been through, the same thing. The last sentence on this post is spot on.

Thank you very much to the anonymous reader for sharing her experience. I know it’s not easy writing something like this but hopefully it’s helped as part of the healing process.

If you would like to share your experience of anything to do with being a Mum or parent, please get in touch.

A NHM Reader’s Experience: Tongue Tie

Tongue tie, as a first time mum I had no clue what this was and the problems your little one can face from it. Throughout my pregnancy as like all mummies to be, I just wanted my baby to be healthy and arrive into the world safely.

However Tongue tie was one of the things no one had even thought to make me aware of, considering it is so common with apparently 1 in 8 babies being born with it and how easily it is to fix. Hopefully by sharing our story I hope more mummies are made aware of tongue tie.

On the arrival of my beautiful baby girl, I was put in a side room at the hospital. The midwife initially checked my baby could breastfeed and then I was left to it. We saw a health assistant once more briefly to check that everything was OK, the paediatrician quickly checked her over and we were given the all clear to go home.

On going home we saw the midwife for the follow up visits. On one of these, they weighed my little girl and found she had dropped weight but this was less then 10% so they were not concerned.

However on her five day check, we went to the clinic and on weighing her, it was found her weight had dropped further. As a new mum, five days post giving birth you are very emotional and it is the last thing you want to hear that your baby is dropping weight, rather then gaining.

At the clinic I saw two older midwifes and they asked me to show them how I was feeding her. This was an eeekkkk moment as I’m not a mum that is confident breastfeeding in front of people. However I knew I had to suck this up and get on with it, so I did.

On doing this, I was told immediately the way I was holding her was wrong and to hold her like a rugby ball under my arm. I was then asked questions about my milk supply and they came to the conclusion this was failing and told me to get some formula in!

I held myself together but on leaving the clinic and getting back to the car, the tears just rolled down as it was the worst thing I could have been told, that I was unable to feed my baby well enough and all I felt was that I was a complete failure.

That evening I tried to struggle through but feeling so low and with no real support on breastfeeding, I caved and sent my husband to Tescos at midnight to buy formula. All I could think was I was starving my baby who was crying and getting more frustrated as she was struggling to feed, so I had to get some milk in her someway. However this did not solve our problems and just brought on a whole load of different issues.

We started on formula and within days we had stopped breastfeeding altogether as she just couldn’t latch properly. We thought this was best and her weight started going up. The midwifes were happy and we were subsequently discharged from their care. We thought great our baby is now on the right tracks and all will be fine. How wrong could we have been!

In the subsequent weeks our little girl started to suffer with colic, reflux and projectile vomiting whenever she had a bottle. The colic was the worst as our poor girl was literally in pain and cried continuously for hours on end as she was just full of wind, to the point she would rattle with it.

We spoke to the health visitor who said to see the GP, so we did. I explained all her symptoms and I was just given medication to try to help settle her. At no point did the GP or health visitor check in her mouth to see that she had a good latch but it was a case of being told that babies do suffer from colic, sickness and reflux when being fed formula and that it would pass.

However the symptoms were just getting worse to the point that one day while I was home on my own, I had given her a bottle but she started to choke and turn blue.

This is honestly the most scary situation seeing your baby looking terrified as they cannot breath. I managed to get her to throw up and she started breathing again but was inconsolably crying.

I took her straight to A&E as my instincts knew there was something wrong with her and this was not normal. On arrival, I asked her to be booked in and told the receptionist what the problem was, she looked over the desk and commented, well she looks ok now, she’s breathing! I couldn’t believe this and politely but in a no messing with me tone, said that I still wanted her seen to regardless of the wait.

On seeing the nurse in triage, due to her age we were taken through to see the doctor. I again explained the situation and what had happened but they had no clue why she had choked and put it down to one of those things.

The doctor in A&E referred the details to a paediatrician and we were taken to the day ward for observation. They again checked her over and I explained what had happened. The consultant said it sounded like she had just choked and that this can happen when babies are so little as they don’t have a gag reflex yet. She said if it happens again to put her on her front and pat her back which should clear it.

Each time we saw someone we were asked if this was our first baby and when we said yes, the ‘look’ of oh they are first time parents worrying too much came out. As she didn’t do this again while we were there, we were sent home with the advice we had been given.

Over the months proceeding this, we struggled on and found ways to help stop the choking with reflux wedges and sitting her upright for an hour after a bottle. While we did this the next challenge we had was getting her to drink a bottle. Our poor girl was still suffering and we felt like we just had to struggle on as it would get better in time, as this was what we were being told repeatedly.

On taking her to her monthly weigh in, her weight was really starting to struggle. The health visitor at my local one looked at me and said oh her weight has dropped what are you doing with her, what’s happened to change this?

Again this is not what I wanted to be faced with, a question to make me feel as though I was at fault for my beautiful baby girl not gaining as much weight as she should. I replied to say nothing had changed but I was still having the same issues. A

gain no one thought to check in her mouth and it was put down to a blip and she would pick up again. I swiftly left the clinic, again feeling as though I had failed my baby girl. I hated going to the weigh ins after this, to the point I would work myself up beforehand so I decided to buy my own scales and do her weight checks myself at home.

On approaching four months old, her weight had dropped to between the 9th and 25th centile. She was also getting to the point she would only drink an ounce or two of milk at a time and then she would refuse anymore. I knew this was due to the pain it was causing her so I spoke to my health visitor but she didn’t really help and said to go and see her on the next weigh in.

I thought this is not right and I was so worried as I knew my little girl was suffering, I needed to find out what was causing it so I decided to google her symptoms. Normally I would never do this as it can give you so many horror stories and cause unnecessary worry but I had to see if there was any possibilities of what was wrong with her. On looking at the search it all pointed to tongue tie.

The helpful reference was this chart that listed out the symptoms: image2

From looking at this list, my little girl had all the symptoms so I wasted no time and booked her into see the GP. The GP checked her but wasn’t sure so asked the midwife at my practice to have a look. She first of all put a finger in her mouth to see what suction she had and the poor girl didn’t have any. They agreed the best thing to do was to refer her to the paediatrician at the hospital that dealt with this and go from there.

On speaking with his secretary on the Monday morning, she took my details and then asked how my baby was fed, I said by bottle and suddenly the tone of the call changed, where she informed me that the paediatrician only dealt with breastfed babies.

Even with me explaining that there was no possibility she could do this and how her health was suffering, I was told he may see her but it would be at his absolute discretion, plus I would have to wait three weeks for this honour.

On putting the phone down I thought to myself sod that, I’m not being made to feel like a second class citizen for bottle feeding my baby as she couldn’t breastfeed so I looked online for somewhere I could have her seen to privately. This is where I found a website that listed all the tongue tie practitioners in the country,

http://www.tongue-tie.org.uk/find-a-tongue-tie-divider.html

I looked through the list of practitioners in my local area and called Katherine. On speaking to her and trying to discuss the problems we were having, I just broke down on her and cried.

Katherine was great, she said she could certainly help and gave me an appointment for the following day at her clinic. On going to the appointment, after explaining the symptoms and looking at her weight chart, she looked in her mouth and confirmed she had a posterior tongue tie which was restricting her tongue by over 50%.

Katherine explained that posterior tongue tie is not picked up so easily as it is not visible but it was very easily treated. Katherine told me what she would do to release the tongue tie which involved one cut to the piece of skin with surgical scissors and that it would take less then a minute.

She asked me to leave the room while she did it and by the time I got to the waiting room and sat down, it was all over. One little snip with the scissors by a trained health professional was all that was needed. This cost £95 privately and I can’t tell you the relief that I felt knowing I wasn’t an over bearing first time mum and that my instincts were right. More importantly, my beautiful little girl would hopefully now start to overcome this and be out of pain.

Picture of her posterior tongue tie
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Picture after the procedure

image3I will say this made a difference straight away. The colic and wind settled down as she was not sucking in air. The reflux also calmed down and choking stopped over the proceeding days.

However she had learnt to adapt to having a restricted tongue for the first four months of her life so she had to relearn how to use her mouth and the muscles with her tongue now freed.

This took several months to reeducate her but she is now a completely changed baby. She’s happy, no longer in pain and her weight is back up, which makes me one happy mum.

Looking back, I have such a mixture of emotions about what we went through as a family. From anger to pure sadness that my little girl was left to struggle and be in pain for the first four months of her life.

I also feel so let down by all the health professionals that saw her as no one picked this up sooner. Such a simple thing to fix but the problems and pain it caused her unnecessarily, when she could have been thriving and happy.

Ultimately I have learnt from this, that you should always trust your instincts as a mum, you know your baby best and don’t think you are worrying unnecessarily.

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Things to do w/c 19th September 2016

Is it nearly half term yet? I’m feeling completely exhausted already!! :-D.

Are you an expert in something to do with your baby or little one? Would you be happy to share your experience with NHM Readers?

If there is something that you are passionate about which is related to parenting and you are happy to write a post about it to share your experiences, please drop me an email at NorthHantsMum@gmail.com. Thanks!

Things to do w/c 19th September 2016

Monday 19th September: Swap shop for children’s clothes, books and toys, 10am to 12pm, Christchurch Chineham

Tuesday 20th September: Chineham Library New RhymetimesWeekly Rhymetime Sessions

Wednesday 21st September: Music with Mummy (AM), 10.45am – Jolly Babies – Birth to 14 months, 11.30am – Music with Mummy – 1 year to 3 years+, St Leonard’s Centre, Rectory Road, Oakley, Basingstoke, RG23 7ED

Thursday 22nd September:  Munchkins Baby and Toddler Group (AM), 10am – 11.30am – under 5’s, 7 Park Prewett Road, Basingstoke, RG24 9RG

Friday 23rd September: Child Health Clinicat Basingstoke Discovery Centre 9.30 – 11.30

Saturday 24th September: NCT Wild West PartyCome and sing, dance and play with Jessie the Cowgirl

Sunday 25th September: Jellybabies Swimming, 9am-12pm, Tadley Swimming Pool, New Road, Tadley RG26 3LA

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New Drop-In’s for Breastfeeding Support!!!!!

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Breastfeeding support in our area has some new drop-ins, one in Andover, Basingstoke and Eastleigh.

The new ones are being funded under a 6 month trial by Hampshire Hospitals but delivered by professionally trained breastfeeding counsellors.

Please come along for support with breastfeeding, no appointment necessary.

And share 🙂

NEW!! Every Monday

10 – 11.30am Blue Room, Sherborne Building, Basingstoke Hospital RG24 9NA

Every Tuesday

10 – 11:30am (NCT run) Spring Meadow Children’s Centre, Smannell Rd., Andover SP11 6JP

NCT Bumps & Babies Tuesdays Term Time Only 1 – 2:30pm Valley Park Community Centre, Eastleigh SO53 4ST

Every Wednesday

9:30am – 12pm (NCT run) Lantern’s Children’s Centre, Bereweeke Rd., Winchester SO22 6AJ

NEW!! Every Thursday

10 – 11:30am Conference/seminar room (near Peaches restaurant) Andover War Memorial Hospital, Charlton Rd., Andover SP10 3LB

Every Friday

10-11.30am (NCT run) Brookvale Village Hall, Lower Brook St, Basingstoke, RG21 7RU

NEW Every Friday 1 – 2:30pm (starts Sep 23rd) All Saints Church, Desborough Rd, Eastleigh SO50 5NH

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Things to do w/c 5th September 2016

Things to do w/c 5th September 2016

Monday 5th September: Splatter Monkeys (AM), 10.45am – 11.30am – Birth to 5 years
Unit 12, Viables Craft Centre, Basingstoke, RG22 4BJ, As featured on NHM

Tuesday 6th September: Sherfield 0-5’s (AM), 10am – 12pm – Birth to 5 years
Sherfield Park Community Centre, Sunwood Drive, Sherfield on Loddon, RG27 0FP

Wednesday 7th September: Fox Cubs Stay ‘n Play (AM) (as featured on NHM), 9.30-11.30am, The Fox pub, Andover Road, Newfound, RG23 7HH

Thursday 8th September:

Friday 9th September: Twinkling Stars Baby and Toddler Group (AM) 10am – 12pm, Wessex Christian Fellowship, Wessex Close, RG21 3NP

Saturday 10th September: Micheldever Station Fete and beer festival, 1pm. (More details to be published on NorthHantsMum later this week)

Sunday 11th September: Cinema: Kids AM, Vue Cinema, Festival Place

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Activities (Classes, Playgroups, Meet Up’s)

New Classes!

Local Events

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